Sunday February 28, 2016

Ephesians 5:21 – Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Ephesians 5:22-24 – Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

There must be mutual submission to the Choreographer.

What Are The Implications?
-Marriage is not an equal proposition.
-There are specific roles and functions and lines of authority in marriage.
-The woman willingly chooses to submit out of obedience to God & His divine system. -The woman’s greatest fulfillment will come from following God’s design.

What Are The Misconceptions?
-Men call all the shots.
-Her submission should never be demanded of her.

What Are The Implications?
-Love her sacrificially.
-Love her intentionally.
-Love with sensitivity.

What Are The Misconceptions?
-You always give her what she wants.
-It doesn’t mean that you don’t need a life of your own.
-You ask her if she is submitting.
-It doesn’t mean that you make her dependent on you.

Dwayne & Angie Terry

Waltz!

Dancing With Your Spouse, Part 04

The Overview

  • There must be mutual submission to the Choreographer.

Ephesians 5:21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Hypotassō [hoo-poh-tas’-oh] – to arrange under, put in subjection to, submit, under-rank, a military term

Steps For Women – Follow His Lead

Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Kephalē [keh-fah-lay’] – the head, authority

1 Corinthians 11:3 But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

What Are The Implications?

  • Marriage is not an equal
  • There are specific roles and functions and lines of authority in marriage.
  • The woman willingly chooses to submit out of obedience to God & His divine system.
  • The woman’s greatest fulfillment will come from following God’s design.

What Are The Misconceptions?

  • Men call all the shots.
  • Her submission should never be demanded of her.

Steps For Men – Be Worthy Of Following

Ephesians 5:25-30 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church– 30 for we are members of his body.

What Are The Implications?

  • Love her sacrificially.
  • Love her intentionally.
  • Love with sensitivity.

What Are The Misconceptions?

  • You always give her what she wants.
  • It doesn’t mean that you don’t need a life of your own.
  • You ask her if she is submitting.
  • It doesn’t mean that you make her dependent on you.

It’s About The Dance, Not The Dancers

Ephesians 5:31-33 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery–but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Discussion Questions

  1. What new insight did you gain concerning the roles of men & women in marriage?
  2. How has our culture made it difficult to function according to God’s design?
  3. How have abuses in the church made it difficult to function according to God’s design?
  4. How could focusing on “your role” vs. evaluating your mate’s role help you both to “get in step” with God’s plan for your marriage?