Sunday February 14, 2016

1 Peter 3:7a – Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives

1 Peter 3:7b – …and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life…

Sin produces fear, selfishness, shame and hiding in our relationships. Sin produces blame & overemphasizes our strengths. Grace Heals us: The first act of grace: God limits our strengths through the curse. The second act of grace: God gives grace to cover their shame with a sacrifice. The third act of grace: God causes us to face our own mortality. Grace Empowers Us to be Considerate of the Differences like Personality, Background, Former relationships, Birth order, Roles, & Wrong Responses. Take action by Discussing your differences. Discover what God’s Word has to say about your differences in opinion that come from your different backgrounds. Pray together about wrong responses & Be patient with change.
Dwayne & Angie Terry

TANGO!

Dancing With Your Spouse, Part 02

Sin Divides Us

  • Sin produces fear, selfishness, shame and hiding in our relationships.

Genesis 3:9-10 But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?” 10 He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”

  • Sin produces blame.

Genesis 3:11-13 And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” 12 The man said, “The woman you put here with me–she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” 13 Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

  • Sin overemphasizes our strengths.

Genesis 3:16-17, 19 To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” 17 To Adam he said, “…Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life. … 19 By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground…

Grace Heals Us

  1. The first act of grace: God limits our strengths through the curse.

Genesis 3:20-21 Adam named his wife Eve, because she would become the mother of all the living. 21 The LORD God made garments of skin for Adam and his wife and clothed them.

  1. The second act of grace: God gives grace to cover their shame with a sacrifice.

Genesis 3:22, 24 He must not be allowed to reach out his hand and take also from the tree of life and eat, and live forever.” … 24 …he drove the man out…

  1. The third act of grace: God causes us to face our own mortality. 

Grace Empowers Us to be Considerate of the Differences

1 Peter 3:7a – Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives

Gnosis – considerate, wise, with an intelligent recognition of the nature of the marriage relation.

1 Peter 3:7b – …and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life…

  • Personality.
  • DOER: An extrovert who is task-oriented.
  • INFLUENCER: An extrovert who is a people person
  • RELATOR: An introvert who is a people person.
  • THINKER: An introvert who is task-oriented.
  • Background.
  • Former relationships.
  • Birth
  • Roles.
  • Women communicate to express emotion, generally oriented toward nurturing.
  • Men communicate to exchange information, generally oriented toward providing.
  • Wrong

Take Action

  • Discuss your differences.
  • Discover what God’s Word has to say about your differences in opinion that come from your different backgrounds.
  • Pray together about wrong responses.
  • Be patient with change.

Discussion Questions (Marrieds & Singles)

  1. What new insight did you gain about barriers in your marriage? In your relationships (singles)?
  2. How does understanding these barriers adjust your expectations in marriage? In your most significant relationships (singles)?
  3. What specific step do you discern God would have you take to begin pulling down” the walls in your marriage? In your most meaningful relationships (singles)?