Sunday February 07, 2016

Genesis 1:26 – Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”

Genesis 2:18 – The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Most Couples don’t understand the difference between love and infatuation. Many couples bring in much baggage and do not know how to deal with it. Many couples do not have good communication skills. Many couples have hidden and unrealistic expectations. Many couples come from homes where deep love and commitment were not modeled. Many couples enter into marriage with individual financial problems. Many couples assumed they were in love and everything would just “work out. God’s plan is a lifelong commitment of unconditional love toward an imperfect person.“That is why…” – our response to God is always obedience. “…a man leaves his father and mother…” – our response to parents is emotional and financial detachment “…and is united to his wife…” – our response is loyalty and selflessness. The Promise: “…they become one flesh…” – You are one and become one. The Reward: intimacy! –Dwayne & Angie Terry

Sermon Transcript(PDF)

Salsa!

Dancing With Your Spouse, Part 01

Most Couples

  • Don’t understand the difference between love and infatuation.
  • Bring in much baggage and do not know how to deal with it
  • Do not have good communication
  • Have hidden and unrealistic expectations
  • Come from homes where deep love and commitment were not modeled.
  • Enter into marriage with individual financial
  • Assumed they were in love and everything would just “work out.”

The Story

Genesis 1:26 Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”

Genesis 2:18 The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Helper – corresponding part. Used in Psalms for God Himself. It makes them in need of each other.

Genesis 2:19-25 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. 25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

Watch The Dance

Proverbs 5:18-19 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer– may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

  • God’s plan is a lifelong commitment of unconditional love toward an imperfect

 

Learn the Steps

Genesis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

  • “That is why…” – our response to God is always obedience.
  • “…a man leaves his father and mother…” – our response to parents is emotional and financial detachment
  • “…and is united to his wife…” – our response is loyalty and selflessness.

God’s Result

  • The Promise: “…they become one flesh…” – You are one and become

Genesis 2:25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

  • The Reward: intimacy

 

This Week’s Follow-Up

On Scale Of 1 To 5 (1 representing strong disagreement and 5 representing strong agreement) rate the following:

  1. Evidence Of Physical Intimacy: ____
  2. Evidence Of Emotional Intimacy: ____
  3. Evidence Of Spiritual Intimacy: ____

Discussion Questions For Those Who Are Married

  1. List the top two to three things that initially attracted you to your mate (before you were married).
  2. Describe the most memorable or meaningful “date” or experience you shared with your mate prior to marriage.
  3. Share one “personal snapshot” from your honeymoon that you still cherish to this day.
  4. For Those w/ Children: Describe how birth of your 1st child together made you feel about your mate, life, God
  5. Share one thing that your mate has accomplished that made you very proud of him/her.

Discussion Questions For Those Who Are Single

  1. List three couple’s marriages that you admire and tell why.
  2. What “dynamics” in those relationships best explain the quality of their marriage?
  3. List the top 3 to 4 things one should look for in the opposite sex to have a lasting marriage in light of today’s message.
  4. Discuss the phrase “having a great marriage isn’t so much about finding the right person as it is becoming the right person.”